The Significant Seven
Posted by H. Stephen Glenn & Dr. Jane Nelsen Ed.D. on 8/25/2011
From the book Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World Every human being is born with the potential to become the world's most capable creature, not with the capabilities themselves. Unlike the amoeba, which is capable of functioning at its full potential from creation, humans acquire their capabilities primarily through apprenticeship: young human beings learn from those who have preceded them.
18 WAYS TO AVOID POWER STRUGGLES
Posted by Dr. Jane Nelsen on 8/15/2011
 Power struggles create distance and hostility instead of closeness and trust. Distance and hostility create resentment, resistance, rebellion (or compliance with lowered self-esteem). Closeness and trust create a safe learning environment. You have a positive influence only in an atmosphere of closeness and trust where there is no fear of blame, shame or pain.
Disrespectful Behavior
Posted by Dr. Jane Nelsen on 8/10/2011
 An excerpt from the book Positive Discipline A Teacher's A-Z GuideWhen a child is disrespectful to teachers or classmates, the first source to consider is the behavior of the adults in this child's life. Children who aren't treated with respect have no model for respectful behavior. Joe's parents call each other names, belittle Joe, and sneer when he objects to anything. When Joe behaves similarly at school, it is unacceptable. Joe needs training, experience, and examples of respectful behavior.
Positive Time Out
Posted by Dr. Jane Nelsen on 8/5/2011
 An excerpt from the book Positive Time Out by Jane Nelsen Many parents and teachers say ludicrous things such as "Go to your room (or to the corner) and think about what you did." I'm amazed that many adults don't know the answer when I ask, "Do you know why that is a ludicrous statement?" They come up with all kinds of responses such as, "The child might be too angry to think about it." "He might fall asleep." "She might not understand what she did wrong." All of these statements are true, but what is ludicrous is the assumption that we can control what a child thinks. A look of awareness appears on their faces when I ask, "Do you really think you can control what a child thinks?
Avoiding Barriers in Parenting
Posted by by H. Stephen Glenn & Jane Nelsen on 8/1/2011
 From the book, Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent WorldDo you create any of the following barriers regularly with someone you love? Do you believe that if you worked at it you could use them less often? Let's look at an example as a means of understanding the barriers and builders. Suppose four-year-old Linda becomes stuck when her tricycle wheel runs off the sidewalk. There are several ways a parent could handle this situation that would decrease feelings of capability:
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